All posts tagged: Marriage

Story: The Wedding Guest

Inspired  by Proverbs Chapter 7 and Like my other stories, the characters have not been given any names. Update 19.01.2018 – this story now has a part two. Read “The Wedding Guest 2” HERE. “For she has been the ruin of many; many men have been her victims. Her house is the road to the grave. Her bedroom is the den of death.” | Proverbs 7:26-27 NLT His ego would not let him say no to her. The whole night they had teased and flirted with each other it was bound to happen with the way she commanded his attention as she swayed her hips to every rhythm and beat that blared out of the banquet hall speakers. He wanted her. What he did not know was that this was all a part of her plan. Her She had planned for this day from the moment she received the invitation to attend this wedding.“Which mugu go be my victim?” She laughed as she put on her killer wedding outfit. The dress would not be missed by male …

Life: In Conclusion

In conclusion I am choosing to walk hand-in-hand with God and His purpose for my life. I am choosing, with His help, that in the coming year and years to come, I will start each day with my conclusion – my introduction and middle will eventually write themselves. “In conclusion…” That’s how most of my secondary school/GSCE essays ended. It was the beginning of the end, the part where I placed emphasis on the ‘argument’ I said I’ll prove in the introduction. The conclusion was also something we were usually told to write or brainstorm first – “think about how you’d like to end your essay, that tends to help with how you start your essay.” Most times, life is an essay and at this time of year a number of us are ‘proof reading’ our lives to ensure that all our A-grade points have been made and to be honest, it’s overwhelming. 365 days can often feel like the 2-hour GCSE Anthropology English exam in a dead-silent-smelly sports hall, on the hard plastic chairs, while …

Story: London Blackfriars ~ Platform 2

Train stories ~ Short fictional stories inspired by real train commuters and I’ve intentionally not given the characters names. If I see you, I just may turn you into a story.  Date: 2nd January 2016 Head down, zipped up in her stylish black leather jacket and with her grey-blonde pixie cut hair being blown by the brisk wind, she searched deep into her green plastic bag for her snack. As if searching for gold, she dug deep in her bag bringing out the already packaged salad and a few other items, even from a distance you could tell were expensive. She found the snack, a savoury pastry from the looks of things. It had been a long day for her, but fun nonetheless. Earlier in the day she had lunch with her friends, yes the same friends that had supported her when she found out that her husband had prostate cancer. They had been her support system then and they remained her support system now. Since her husband’s passing this would be the first time the …

Small Chops: The Text Message

Small Chops: A Nigerian term for Canapés, Hors d’oeuvres and the like. Small Chops: Quick thoughts of mine. A few weeks ago…that time I sent a text message about marriage… Just had a thought – marriage is more God’s doing and planning than it is ours. God has total control of our lives and we live to please him, our lives at the end of the day fulfil his promises, plans and purposes (that’s if we make him no. 1). How much more marriage? I think we forget that even the relationships we have (on all levels) are supposed to reflect Christ, and when we get caught up in the marriage hype, our prayers and desires for marriage become misaligned. In other words, why do we desire it? Our first answer should be “to demonstrate and minister the love of Christ to others and to each other (oko t’iyawo).” I read this commentary this morning: “As you go about your daily tasks, God is working in your life in ways you may not even notice. …

Life: Don’t Pity Me Because I’m Single – Vlogs & Songs

So last week I wrote about my singleness and how I feel about it, you can read it here. In light of that, here are two videos from young Christians talking about singleness and marriage, both from different Biblical perspectives. Ladies First: @Omoba_Debs | xSoulBeautyx on YouTube “I’m so in love with God in my state of singleness. I don’t see it as a curse anymore…” @whatisjoedoing from @chaseGodTV on YouTube “Your desire to be married is not an ungodly desire…but at the same time we can’t let this desire consume us and dominate us…” Also, enjoy this song from Falz (The Bahd Guy), with the helps of Yemi Alade and Poe, he talks about how eager women are to get married due to age, pressure from family, and seeing friends (and enemies) get married whilst they are [still] single (basically). If you understand the song I’m sure you’ll enjoy the funny punch lines but also appreciate the truth of the matter. “Don’t get it twisted, it’s not like I’m desperate/ I just have a life plan and it’s …

Life: Don’t Pity Me Because I’m Single

I’ve been meaning to write something on this topic for a very long time, but every time I started to write this post it never seemed authentic. Writing about it felt forced but then this happened… Half-term at my house and some how my relationship status was the topic for discussion… and my 12 year old cousin procedes to ask “Sister Layide*, do you have a secret boyfriend?” With a half-perplexed-half-annoyed look on my face, and with my eyes darting at her through my lenses, I shot back and said: “NO! Why would I have a secret boyfriend? If he was a secret I wouldn’t tell you and if I was with someone I wouldn’t keep it to myself! I would tell you! I would tell everyone!” I thought my answer would suffice and encourage her to ponder no more about my lack of a secret boyfriend, well it did, not before she used her right index finger to tap her watchless left wrist to indicate to me that my time was running out. SHE IS 12! (I …